When someone we love struggles with depression, it can be difficult to know what to say or do. Many friends and family members want to help but feel uncertain about the best approach. Understanding how to support someone with depression – and, in some cases, how to support someone with depression and anxiety – requires empathy, patience, and practical strategies. Dr. Gene Devers and Associates at Philly Family Life Counseling, LLC, have put together a helpful guide with do’s, dont’s, and answers to frequently asked questions for how to support someone with depression.
Do’s: Helpful Ways for How to Support Someone with Depression
- Listen without judgment. Let your loved one share their feelings without rushing to “fix” them. Try saying: “I’m here for you. You don’t have to go through this alone.”
- Offer consistent support. Depression often drains energy and motivation. Gentle reminders to eat, rest, or take breaks can be reassuring. Try saying: “Would you like me to go for a walk with you or bring over dinner?”
- Encourage professional help. Suggest therapy or counseling as a safe space to process feelings. Offer to help research options or drive them to appointments.
- Be patient with recovery. Healing takes time. Recognize that small steps forward are meaningful progress.
- Respect their boundaries. Support doesn’t always mean being present 24/7. Ask what feels helpful rather than assuming.
Don’ts: What to Avoid
- Don’t minimize their feelings. Avoid phrases like: “Just snap out of it” or “Others have it worse.”
- Don’t take it personally. Withdrawal or irritability are symptoms of depression, not reflections of your relationship.
- Don’t push constant positivity. Saying “Think happy thoughts” may feel dismissive. Instead, acknowledge their struggle.
- Don’t assume professional care isn’t needed. Depression is a medical condition, not a weakness. Therapy, counseling, and sometimes medication are vital.
FAQs About Supporting a Loved One with Depression
Q: What if my loved one refuses help?
A: You can’t force treatment, but you can gently encourage it and remind them you’ll be there when they’re ready.
Q: How do I know if it’s more than sadness?
A: Depression often involves lasting changes in mood, sleep, appetite, or energy levels, typically lasting two weeks or more.
Q: Should I talk about suicide if I’m worried?
A: Yes. Asking directly does not increase risk; it shows you care and can help them feel less alone. If you need to talk, the 988 Lifeline is here for you and your loved ones.
Compassionate Care in Philadelphia
If you’re looking for how to support someone with depression, it’s important to remember you don’t have to navigate it on your own. At Philly Family Life Counseling, we provide compassionate, evidence-based depression therapy tailored to each person’s needs. Dr. Devers and Associates also provide support to families and loved ones, giving you tools to better understand and encourage your partner, child, or friend. To learn more or to schedule an appointment, call us at (215) 677-3810 or fill out our online form. Even support systems need support sometimes; we’re here for you. Call us today to learn more.
